I am a couples therapist trained in PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) by Stan Tatkin and Imago Relationship Therapy by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Both of these modalities look at our attachments styles and how they interact in our relationship. I often recommend reading these books for people to gain more understanding of their attachment styles, emphasis on style! Our tendencies to either move close or move away during stress in our relationships. These books provide explanations and my goal is hope for how to navigate relationships.
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin. I often recommend couples read this book since I find it a non-patholgoizing way to explain attachment styles. It also sets guidelines for secure functioning and how to create a long lasting and sustainable relationships. The audible version is available, Your Brain on Love.
Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix. The title says it all! It looks at who we are attracted to and why we are attracted to certain people. Looks at our history and gives tools for how to heal emotional wounds.
In Each Other’s Care by Stan Tatkin. Works on how to be good caregivers to one another, and maintain safety in a long term relationship when the honeymoon stage is now over. It explains why when we are together longer it can actually become more difficult to communciate or understand one another in relationships.
Books on sexual health and intimacy:
Sexual Intelligence by Dr Marty Klein provides a model for how to enjoy sex through out the life span.
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel. This books looks at long term relationships and how what creates a healthy relationship of security and predictability can often be in conflict with desire.
Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski. This book is written by a researcher and it makes anatomy and all areas of sex and intimacy accessible and understandable.
Come Together by Emily Nagoski. The follow up book looking at longer term relationships and how to maintain sexual intimacy.
